Kate Beckinsale shared a heartbreaking post on Father’s Day with her 3 million followers that has left her fans in tears. Kate lost her father at the tender age of 5-years-old and she wanted to give support to other adults who have a difficult time with holidays such as Father’s Day. Kate’s father was the British actor Richard Beckinsale who starred in popular series such as The Lovers, Porridge, and Rising Dump. Richard was married to Margaret Bradley with whom he had a daughter Samantha. After his divorce to Margaret, he married actress Judy Loe and the two had one child: Kate Beckinsale. Kate was five-years-old when her father suddenly passed away from a heart defect. Richard Beckinsale was only 31-years-old at the time of his death.
Kate opened up about some of the difficulties she experienced by losing her father and she said that adults shouldn’t be too quick to assume their children are resilient and bouncing back. She recommended that grieving children have counseling to help them cope with loss.
Here is a bit of what Kate Beckinsale shared.
“This is my mother and me attending the “celebration of life “ memorial service for my dad. I look fine. I was shattered, heartbroken and shocked. Every time Father’s Day comes around I remember my father with such love and longing, and I remember the deep shame, loneliness, and self-loathing when I was excused from aged 5 onwards from making Father’s Day cards at school.”
You may see the full post as Kate Beckinsale shared it below.
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Don’t be fooled by “children are resilient”. This is my mother and me attending the “celebration of life “ memorial service for my dad. I look fine. I was shattered, heartbroken and shocked.Every time Father’s Day comes around I remember my father with such love and longing ,and I remember the deep shame, loneliness and self loathing when I was excused from aged 5 onwards from making Father’s Day cards at school. I didn’t know anyone else who had lost a parent and there was no number to call to find advice on how to support grieving children . @kelliauerbach sent me her @the_newyork_times article about losing both her parents before the age of 20. It’s moving and beautifully written and I really advise reading it,if Father’s Day (or Mother’s Day ) is a painful issue for you or your children. The amount of shame children carry for having a dead parent is astonishing . Resources such as the National Alliance for Grieving Children (@childrengrieve )at childrengrieve.org in the US and Winston’s wish at winstonswish.org ( @winstonswish )in the UK give invaluable support to kids in this position, at a time when the rest of the family are grieving themselves. Big hugs to everyone who feels like shit as this lovely holiday comes around . You may not be able to buy a card . You’re in the Dead Fathers Club that none of us wanted to join and yet here we all are. I’m glad we have each other . Love to all xx
Kate shared another photo on her Instagram page in honor of her father. In this picture, her father Richard was smiling and beaming with life. A parrot was perched upon his finger while he held a drink in his other hand. A smiling Kate Beckinsale stood in front of her dad posing for the camera. The picture depicts a celebration of life as it is lived — with friends and family.
Kate captioned the photo by expressing her father’s uniqueness.
“No one has ever been like you. Happy Father’s Day 🖤”
What do you think of Kate Beckinsale’s heartbreaking post and message to those who find Father’s Day and Mother’s Day painful holidays?