Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard skipped out on another Duggar holiday. After missing out on the family’s Christmas celebrations, the two failed to show up at the Duggars house for Valentine’s Day — sparking rumors that their ongoing feud with Jill’s family is far from over.
As Counting On fans are well aware, the Duggars tend to celebrate holidays a little differently than most couples. While the majority of people in the world spend Valentine’s Day with their significant others, the Duggars make it a family affair. This year was no different, and Jana Duggar gave fans an inside look at the festivities via Instagram.
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Our family is trying to start a new tradition for Valentines Day (which we celebrated a few days early). This year we each drew a name and wrote a meaningful note to that person about their character, what they truly mean to us and tried to express from our heart how much we genuinely love and care about them. I think each of my family members would say, this by far was one of the most meaningful times we’ve had together as a family. We took time to go around the room and read the notes out loud to the person we had written them to and expounded a little more on it. There were many tears shed and much joyful laughter. The saying goes, “actions speak louder than words” but I have to say sometimes that’s not always true, for in our day and age I feel we’ve forgotten to express love through our words. If you’re hardly ever speaking words of life and love, but rather tend to speak harsh words or only doing “actions” by giving material things or gifts to others, how will they truly know if you love them? We must remember to say the words “I love you” often and thoughtfully tell others the things we appreciate and admire about them. I think genuine, loving words, saying what that person means to you can speak louder than actions. Most of us tend to be caught up in our daily tasks and jobs and I think forget to express this to others. I challenge you, go and write a meaningful note to someone you love, (or you need to love) and share positive, encouraging words and how that person has impacted your life in a positive way. Trust me, everyone hears enough negative things in their life and how they need to do things better, but rarely do they hear the positive things that encourage them. Be the positive voice in others lives, you may just be the one to change their life for the better and impact them for eternity. The power of an encouraging word is far greater than any material gift — chocolate that will melt, flowers that will wilt, or other material gifts that will fade away. Words will live on forever and can impact a person towards life or death. So when we speak let’s be careful in what we say. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” Prov. 18:21
Jana posted a lengthy note on her newly created Instagram account detailing how her family spent Valentine’s Day. The Counting On star also shared photos of the event and it looked like everyone had a blast spending the day together. Fans were quick to notice that Jill and Derick were not in any of the photos, which only added more fuel to the feud rumors.
“Our family is trying to start a new tradition for Valentine’s Day (which we celebrated a few days early),” Jana explained, later adding, “I think each of my family members would say, this by far was one of the most meaningful times we’ve had together as a family.”
When fans asked Jana why Jill and Derick didn’t make it to the family holiday, she revealed that they had “prior commitments.” Jana did not elaborate any further and it is totally possible that Jill and Derick had made conflicting plans. But there could be another reason why they skipped the party.
Derick’s controversial history may be why the two haven’t been attending Duggar family events. As fans will recall, Derick was booted from Counting On after sharing transphobic comments on social media. With that in mind, the Duggars may have told him to keep a low profile, at least until some more time has passed.
Jill Duggar is sticking by Derick Dillard despite his transphobic comments: https://t.co/vCheLvE8KP
— OK! Magazine USA (@OKMagazine) March 5, 2018
That said, just about all of the Duggars made it to the family holiday, including Josh Duggar, whose molestation scandal led to the cancellation of 19 Kids and Counting. We do not know if the feud rumors are true, but it’s pretty clear that something isn’t right between the Dillards and Duggars.
Catch the Duggar family – sans Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard – in new episodes of Counting On Monday nights on TLC.