Flipping Out alum Jeff Lewis and his boyfriend of one year, Scott Anderson, have called it quits. Lewis confirmed the break-up on Monday’s episode of Jeff Lewis Live.
The 50-year-old explained that he and Anderson called it quits over the weekend, and he also revealed that the last eight weeks have been “kind of rough.”
“He’s had a lot of anxiety, a lot of frustration, and it got to a point where I felt that he was hyper-critical of me,” said Lewis. “It was a lot of negativity and always complaining. I feel like I worked very hard in the relationship. I felt like I was very good to him.”
Lewis added that despite the “negativity” in their relationship in recent weeks, the positive always outweighs the negative. Looking back on the relationship, Lewis admitted that sometimes Anderson bugged “the sh*t” out of him, but he doesn’t forget about the good things.
The interior designer explained that Anderson was the one who broke up with him, but he agreed that it was the right decision. Lewis says that Anderson stopped communicating with him in recent weeks, and he could “feel him next to me just angry, pouting, seething, resenting me.”
Lewis explained that he started to think that Anderson needed some distance to gain some perspective. But, when he confronted him about it and had a conversation, Lewis says Anderson told him he wanted to break up.
Lewis says that Anderson did recommend that they go to couples therapy, but he told Anderson he was done working on the relationship. That turned out to be Lewis’ biggest regret because now he thinks they should have tried counseling.
The reality star explained that he and Anderson speak “two different languages,” and when he is in a relationship he needs more affirmation and acknowledgement. Lewis says that Anderson’s constant verbal beatings and the hyper-criticism became suffocating.
“It just started wearing on me,” said Lewis.
He also revealed that immediately after the split, he and Anderson did have a heated exchange via text. However, Lewis decided to put a stop to it and sent Anderson some kind words.
“I said, ‘Look, you are a very nice, kind man and you have been such a positive influence on me over the past year, and I’m very grateful and I so appreciate how sweet and generous you’ve been with [daughter] Monroe and I wish you the best,’” Jeff Lewis said. “Hopefully eventually we can be friends.”
Jeff Lewis Live airs weekdays on SiriusXM’s Radio Andy.