There are so many moving parts in everyday life that only now due to things slowing down are people having time to self-reflect and simply observe. For couples with or without children, it may be bringing a partnership closer together or further apart.
For Jada Pinkett Smith, she is realizing that she may not know her husband of two decades as well as she thought she did, In fact, she even said that she doesn’t know him ‘at all.’
During a new episode of Red Table Talk, Jada brought on her marriage counselor where she shared her struggles in quarantine along with the struggles of other couples.
While speaking about her movie star husband, Jada got very candid.
‘I have to be honest: I think one of the things that I realize is that I don’t know Will at all. Let me tell you: I feel like there’s a layer that you get to, right? Life gets busy, and you create these stories in your head. And then you hold onto these stories and that is your idea of your partner. But that’s not who your partner is. So, [it’s] going through the process of having to dissolve all the stories and all of the ideas of Will that I have built around those stories.’
She went on to say that they are learning to love themselves individually and also learning to be friends.
Jada also talked about their arguing style.
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TNHT Staff: @yesthatsdee ___________________________________________ Neighbors, it looks like Will might need to take a seat at that red table again because quarantining has Jada feeling like she doesn’t know him at all! _____________________________________________ Now if you’re like us, you’re probably wondering how is it that she doesn’t know him if they’ve been dating since the 90s? Well, here’s a little insight into her statement. _____________________________________________ According to Insider, while self-isolating together, Jada realized that she didn’t know Will at all. "Life gets busy and then you create these stories in your head and then you hold onto these stories and that is your idea of your partner, but that's not who your partner is,” she explained. _____________________________________________ “Will and I are learning to be friends…we’re in the process of him taking the time to learn to love himself, me taking the time to learn to love myself, and us building a friendship along the way." _____________________________________________ She also revealed that they don’t call themselves married anymore due to the expectations that go along with the term "marriage." _____________________________________________ But hey, whatever floats your boat. All I can say (and in my best Jada’s voice) is that when she said she didn’t know who Will was, I felt like she was saying it to me!” *Cues head nods*
She admits in a disagreement, she has a tendency to go straight to fighting.
However, she is trying to be more conscious of how she handles those situations.
‘I’m really kind of in a position where that is really not the option, you know what I mean?’
Her coping mechanism includes ‘having to really just take a breath, take a minute, sit on my hands before I say or do anything – recognizing I’m in fight, so be quiet, don’t say anything.’
This comes after the couple has redefined what they are to each other.
Instead of using the terms ‘husband and wife,’ they prefer to say they are ‘life partners.’
It’s refreshing to see the couple be so open about their 22-year long marriage.