The past few weeks have been overrun with news about the Harvey Weinstein scandal. Accused of sexually abusing more than 30 women with at least five women claiming the disgraced mogul raped them, many controversies have ensued in the media.
When victim blaming has surfaced, some have come forward to defend Harvey Weinstein, and some have attacked Rose McGowan who has been an outspoken critic of Weinstein and one of his alleged rape victims.
Actress Mayim Bialik wrote a piece for the New York Times that sparked controversy when she referred to dressing in moderate clothes and not behaving in a flirtatious manner in an effort to protect herself from sexual predators.
The wording caused intense controversy as many felt Mayim Bialik was actually blaming the victims. Could it be that something the victims wore or the way they acted drew Weinstein’s attention? Do victims attract predators?
Most likely not.
Predators often have a type they are looking for and then cast a wide net, so to speak, in order to get as many victims as possible.
— Variety (@Variety) October 16, 2017
There are several comments made by various victims who have alleged sexual abuse, harassment, and misconduct against Weinstein that indicate he had a certain type as well as a routine operation.
A familiar theme with the victims’ stories was that they were told they would have a meeting with Weinstein to discuss a movie project. The meetings were not done in a public place but in his office or hotel rooms.
According to the allegations, Weinstein would often come to the door dressed in a bathrobe or towel. He would insist the woman come inside and try to get them to engage in massages.
Did the women catch Weinstein’s eye because of what they were wearing or behaving in a flirtatious manner? Again, it’s doubtful.
Many of the victims were very young actresses trying to make it in Hollywood and excited to get their first big part. It seems if there was anything that made them vulnerable to Weinstein’s advances, it was being young, female, and beautiful.
Can women attract predators? Are there things women can do that will make them predator proof?
It should be reiterated that when a man violates a woman, it is his choice to violate and abuse her and his alone. No one makes a man sexually abuse, harass or rape a woman. The fault and blame always rest with the perpetrator.
Because predators cast wide nets and try to lure as many women as possible so they can get someone to violate, it seems to some that the women who were violated must have done something wrong.
It appears that working with Hollywood producers, directors, and other powerful men is similar to swimming with sharks. You might want to take off your flashy jewelry and not wear bright colors, but the truth is if you go swimming in shark infested water they are going to circle before making an attack.
Women should not be blamed for having a profession and expecting men to treat them with respect and dignity. The allegations that have been made indicate that not only did Weinstein violate women for decades, but he had help doing it.
There are allegations that other people helped procure women for these “business” meetings and continually covered up Weinstein’s and others actions.
Some reports say that Weinstein had a clause in his contract regarding sexual abuse and harassment claims. The original report indicates that Weinstein paid off women, including Rose McGowan for his crimes against them.
Women are never to blame when they are raped, harassed, or otherwise sexually abused. If a woman says no then that means no. Anything else is a crime.