Gabourey Sidibe is grabbing headlines for saying that parents should raise their young boys differently.
The Empire actress shared a brief clip where former First Lady Michelle Obama is talking about the well-known double standards that exist in households all over the world.
Young girls are told to be strong and not to get pregnant while little boys get to be free-spirited and partake in whatever activities they like.
Many mothers teach their daughter to cook, clean, and wash but do not do that with their sons.
At a recent event, Mrs. Obama asked, why do mothers raise their girls and love and pamper their boys?
Mrs. Obama said: “It is like the problem in the world today is we love our boys, and we raise our girls. We raise them to be strong, and sometimes we take care not to hurt men.”
Sasha and Malia’s mom went on to say: “It is powerful to have strong men but what does that strength mean? Does it mean respect? Does it mean responsibility? Or are we protecting our men too much so that they feel a little entitled and a little, you know, self-righteous sometimes?”
Sidibe said she was tired of carrying the world on her shoulders and parents need to raise their boys to be “strong black women.”
She wrote: “I love her so much. I say this all the time! Even my brother will tell you that we lived in completely different households, even though we were under the same roof. Can we start raising these boys to be strong black women cuz I’m very tired.”
Many people agreed with Sidibe.
One commenter said: “Yup. The same patriarchy that tells parents of girls “girls are harder to raise because they can get pregnant” well who’s getting them pregnant?.Yes!! Same in my household – different standards for me v. my brother and it still drives me crazy to this day.”
Another shared: “It’s def on us!!!!!!!!! Go, mamas.The same patriarchy that tells parents of girls “girls are harder to raise because they can get pregnant” well who’s getting them pregnant? The way I was raised the boys only empty the garbage. I turned that around when I had my children.My sons are taught like my girls they cook, clean, hold doors for females, everyone does laundry. If boys cook, they fix everyone plate, same for girls. When one needs help, the others must assist them & guide them.”
A third person claimed: “It’s so true I truly agree, and it happened to me twice through my mother and my mothering! Is not always so visible my daughter bought it to my attention. By then my children were grown and gone. I accepted and started changing it. And they notice it. Abc’s all but the baby boy is understanding, but I do not detour.”
Should little boys be taught to be like strong and resilient black women?