Most marriages don’t last past the seven-year itch and you’d be hardpressed to find a celebrity couple who have been married for longer than 10-15 years. The 20-year anniversary milestone that actors Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have just reached in their marriage signifies not only something that is rarely seen in Hollywood but rarely seen in marriages in general.
Two people who have had to learn and grow with each other and for each other without stifling one another. A concept many can’t fathom.
To perfectly illustrate this, Will took to Instagram to pen a special anniversary tribute to his lady love and his caption shows just why so many marriages don’t stand the test of time. They’re built on the wrong things and they are entered into for the wrong reasons.
This is even truer in a world of glitz, glam and gorgeous people. Being eternally focused on your partner’s growth and their happiness takes a certain level of selflessness and self-worth that isn’t taught to many people.
20 Years Ago Today we held hands and walked naively down that aisle. Here’s what I’ve learned since. . Love is Like Gardening… I have learned to focus on HELPING you to BLOSSOM into what YOU want to be (into what you were born to be)… Rather than Demanding that you become what my Fragile Ego needs you to be. . I’ve learned to take pleasure in Nourishing YOUR dreams… Rather than wrestling with you to Fulfill my Selfish Needs & Satiate My Insecurities. . I have learned that Love is Listening. Love is Giving. Love is Freedom. . Happy Anniversary, My Queen! I am forever Devoted to Nurturing your Deepest Truth.
Will talks about the freedom that is needed in a union in order to withstand the test of time. When two people become too demanding or dependent on one another, it’s easy for that to strain their individuality as human beings. This easily makes people feel stifled, isolated and codependent.
The actor’s caption is saying that in order to really work on and advocate for your wife, one must be interested in seeing them succeed on their own terms, completely separate from their role as wife or mother. This is an incredible notion that completely strips ego and selfishness that often hijack marriages.
This type of rhetoric is nothing new, Will has always had a more elevated sense of mindfulness. There are many videos on the internet of him talking about the importance of positivity, work ethic, and human empathy.
He’s a bit of a motivational speaker trapped in an Oscar-nominated actor’s body. His level of consciousness regarding what works and what won’t work in life is something he largely credits his amassed success to.
Congrats to Will and Jada on the celebration of their steady, strong, and fruitful marriage.