Gabrielle Union opens up about so much in her new book We’re Going To Need More Wine. One of which is her annoyance and discomfort with so many questioning when she’s going to have a baby.
The 44-year-old actually dedicated an entire chapter entitled “Get Out of my P—y” to articulate how difficult it has been to be constantly asked about the state of her uterus and if she is planning to get pregnant.
The Being Mary Jane actress is very candid and upfront in the book and reveals that she has suffered at least eight miscarriages and spent a huge amount of money in failed IVF procedures trying to get pregnant with husband Dwayne Wade.
In the book, she details instantly understanding that she wanted kids as she developed relationships with her stepchildren. However, her journey on the quest of getting pregnant and bearing a child has been tumultuous and downright heartbreaking.
Union recalls how painful the IVF treatments were, how bloated they made her body, and how they messed up her cycles. She talks about having to go to her appointments in secret because she didn’t want images of her leaving a fertility clinic to get on the internet.
All of this was extremely stressful on the actress and each time, lead to a failed IVF round that would result in a devasting miscarriage.
“For so many women, and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, ‘Do you want kids?’ A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say ‘no’, because it’s a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause,” Union explained.
Union wanted to tell her story so that women don’t feel alone in their struggles with fertility or constantly being grilled about pregnancy or how many children they are going to have.
She truly feels that those who ask and pry need to understand that they are not entitled to such information and if the person is comfortable enough with those type of things, they’ll bring it up themselves.