Everyone’s journey to motherhood doesn’t look the same. The way in which some women become mothers doesn’t follow a specific path. Many mothers don’t necessarily carry their children in their body for nine months.
Hollywood actress Charlize Theron, whose new film Tully takes on the depression and isolation often felt in motherhood, chose a different route when it came to becoming a mother.
Theron adopted two children, Jacks and Auggie, and is very vocal about how personal the subject of adoption is.
In a recent Elle interview, Theron opens up about how some people think that they couldn’t possibly love another child as much as one they create themselves.
For her, she’s always known she wanted to adopt ever since she was a little girl. Growing up in South Africa, she was aware of how many orphanages were in the area.
She used to ask her mother if they could go get her a brother and sister from an orphanage all the time.
Theron always had this intrinsic belief that so many children already existing in the world needed mothering and nurturing just like any child that she bore personally.
She never felt or saw a difference in adopting a child versus having one biologically.
She says that even when she was in relationships during her adult life, she’d always make her partner aware that she would adopt. She said she’s been open to having biological children as well but that adoption has always been her “first choice.”
When asked what parenthood had taught her about herself, she answered perspective. Theron says that in her 30s she was so ready for kids and that having them puts so much into place in the mind.
She laments dealing with the toddler and tantrum stage when a meltdown always takes place at the worst time, the sleepless nights and these tiny humans coming into their own personalities and existences more and more.
Theron admits it’s a lot for one person to handle. But that over the six years she’d had her kids, she’s never once doubted whether she made the right choice.